12 TYPES OF WOMEN MEN SHOULD AVOID

12 TYPES OF WOMEN MEN SHOULD AVOID
1. THE CONTROL FREAK
For this woman, her ideal relationship is less about
compatibility and compromise and more about having
someone do everything she says. The only way she can
be happy is if she has complete control over
circumstances which ruins all opportunity for
spontaneity, romantic surprises, and, you know, a
man to love out of his own free will.
2. THE GOLD DIGGER
All men have experienced the effort to bring together
their physical, spiritual and financial aspects. In the
process of courting, you will pay for flowers, go out to
the movies, take the weekend to go skiing, and lay the
world out before her. However, while you spend with
emotion and desire, make sure your newfound lady is
enjoying you rather than your money. Gold Diggers will
eventually show their colours when they begin expecting
you to pay for everything including her bills. Going for
broke in a relationship is far different from going
broke, Player. Remember that.
The Gold Digger is easy to detect, but they are a smart
breed. A Gold Digger will instantly speak of high-
priced evenings and pricey desserts. She will mention
her bills and her need for your financial help. She will
also take this time to arouse you to the point of blind
obedience. Stand your ground and keep your hand on
your wallet.
3. THE NARCISSIST
She’s the girl that wants all eyes on her and when
they’re not it becomes a problem. Remember Regine
from Living Single? She’s the same as her. Trying to
build a relationship with a Narcissist is the same as
trying to live in a sandcastle. It’ll take a lot of
understanding and therapy sessions to develop a
concrete relationship with her.
4. MISS CHATTER-BOX
For a man, a talkative woman is neither good nor bad.
Most women are accused of being too talkative when,
in reality, they are speaking more simply because they
are discussing a subject that is of great interest to
them and not just because women talk more. In a
woman's world, everyone speaks together. In the world
of men, it is considered rude to speak out of turn and
one is not to be interrupted by the other until he's
done. Therefore, when a woman asks a man a question
and he proceeds to answer her - and then she begins
to interject her opinions for the next 10 minutes -
he'll just quit trying.
5. THE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE ONE
The passive-aggressive woman spells danger. She is
unable to tell you how she feels, so she acts out her
feelings, which will surely confuse you. When she’s
passive, it may seem alluring, but that passivity will
eventually turn back into aggressive when she feels she
isn’t getting what she wants.
6. THE WANNABE
She comes across as if she has a lot going on, yet you
can’t really pinpoint what or who she really is. It’s
more likely that she has an identity issue or is too
wrapped up in the lives of celebrities that she’s lost
herself along the way
7. THE COMPARATIVE ONE
She’s the one that compares you to either her terrible
ex or her father that you will never live up to. It’ll be
very hard to feel appreciated by her because whatever
you do will not measure up to her standards. She can’t
see you for who you are, she only sees how things can
be better or how wrong they are.
8. THE COMPLAINER
Regardless of the situations she’ll find something to
complain about. If you’re late, if you’re wearing blue
instead of red, if it’s raining outside or sunny she will
find fault in it all. It’ll be like walking on eggshells
around her
9. THE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE ONE
There is no way to build a relationship with an
emotionally unavailable person.The emotionally
unavailable person refuses to express themselves and
are so evasive that it becomes exhausting trying to get
through to them. They are good at charm, seduction
and sexual appeal, but when the relationship gets
deeper they will bail or sabotage it.
10. THE ATTENTION- SEEKER
She’s a bit different from the narcissist. The
attention-seeker is constantly on the lookout for
attention and often does things to get attention. She
may be loud in public or post pictures on Instagram
and Facebook more times a day than anyone can keep
up with. Her attention-seeking is a symptom,
sometimes, of a lack of self-esteem or she believes she
won’t get attention unless she demands it.
11. THE OVER-ANALYZER
From the beginning, she’ll be trying to understand why
you do what you do because she feels everything has a
deeper meaning. The need to know why you said one
word over another will be the crux of your
conversations. One-word answers annoy her and that’ll
tornado into a huge argument. It’ll be like chemistry
class with this one.
12. THE MEAN ONE
Her lip stays poked out ready to go off on whoever.
There is no explanation as to why she’s being mean or
why she’s mad. There isn’t much to do here unless you
want to set her off and have her unleash on you.
There’s surely a way to get through to her, but only she
knows that and she probably ain’t trying to reveal
that.

HEALTH BENEFITS OF PUMPKIN LEAVES

Back where I come from, we call these green “sewewe/obudho” or “resewewe”, and most kenyans  have no idea what the English name is (like most local foods) it is known  as pumpkin leaves. My grandmother used to say this was a great vegetable to blend and mix with juices and stuff, but way back then, as a child, I could never understand why someone would want to blend a vegetable. And it didn’t have the best texture in the world. Now, look at me, blending all sorts of greens!

This vegetable is used a lot in western kenya   to cook soups (what you may refer to as a sauce), to boil and eat plain, or to blend into a shake. People say it is healthy, but I don’t think people truly know what those health benefits are.

Pumpkin leaves contain a healthy amount of Vitamin A, Vitamin C, Calcium, and Iron, while still staying very low on the calorie front.

We all know about the vision benefits vitamin A provides, as well as the skin benefits. Vitamin C helps to heal wounds and form scar tissue, and maintain healthy bones, skin, and teeth. However since the body cannot produce this vitamin on its own or even store it, you should be consistently getting enough vitamin C in your diet.

As for calcium, your mother probably already told you growing up that you need a healthy dose of calcium for your bones and teeth as a child. However, if you are a female, it is important to consume enough calcium to help prevent osteoporosis and keep your bones strong. There have also been studies showing that calcium may help reduce the risk of cardiovascular failure.

Iron helps our muscles store and use oxygen, and helps carry oxygen from our lungs to other parts of our bodies as part of hemoglobin. If you’ve ever heard the term “anemia”, this can be caused by iron deficiency. Women and children in particular need a healthy dose of iron consistently, and these leaves help provide that nutrient naturally.

Some of the health benefits of pumpkin leave include:

1. Prevention of convulsion: The young leaves sliced and mixed with coconut water and salt are stored in a bottle and used for the treatment of convulsion in ethno medicine.
2 lowers cholesterol:leaves has hypolipdemic effect and may be a useful therapy in hypercholestolemia.
3 Boost fertility: A particular study showed that pumpkin has the potential to regenerate testicular damage and also increase spermatogenesis.
4. It has a liver protecting effects.
5.  It has antibacterial effects
6 .The leaves are rich in iron and play a key role in the cure of anaemia, (my mother used to mix the leaf extract with milk)
7. They are also noted for lactating properties and are in high demand for nursing mothers.
8.It has an hypoglycaemic (sugar reducing) effect. It is good for diabetics
9. Increases Blood Volume and Boost Immune System
10. The high protein content in leaves of plants such as pumpkin could have supplementary effect for the daily protein requirement of the body.

HOME MADE JIGGERS DRUGS:

Ingredients :
Magadi
Body oil(vaseline or milking jelly)

Ratio of Magadi to Vaseline is 50%:50%
*If you use 20mg of Magadi and 20mg of vaseline dawa will last for about 1 week for 1 person(depends on how serious jiggers are)

HOW TO MAKE;
1.Crush Magadi to make it powdery,if it has big lumps
2.Mix Magadi with vaseline/milking jelly
3.Mix well until it becomes soft
4.Wash affected part (feet/hands)with warm water and soap and dry well with clean cloth.
5.Apply dawa to affected part and area around it.

*Apply the dawa every day before you sleep.
*It will take half a month until its completely heeled.

NOTE:
PROPER SANITATION IS THE BEST PREVENTION!!!
☆wash your body well every day especially affected parts
☆Keep environment clean(clean home,smear floor regularly)
☆Wear shoes all the time if possible

Things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age

Things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age:
1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone's laps
no matter the situation including uncles.
2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once
he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or
yourself.
3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my
wife' or 'my husband'
4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends
make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of
play they do, because young people now sexually abuse
themselves.
5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is
not comfortable with and also be observant if your
child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn
you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from
your child.
7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right
values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them
the wrong values.
8: It is always advisable you go through any new
Material like cartoons you just bought for them before
they start seeing it themselves.
9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable
networks and advice your friends especially those your
child(ren) visit(s) often.
10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private
parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone
touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home
and with you).
11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could
threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music,
movies and even friends and families).
12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of
standing out of the
crowd.
13: Once your child complains about a particular
person, don't keep quiet about it.
Take up the case and show them you can defend them.
Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be.
Have a Nice day and Great Week Ahead
And possible forward to all friends who have
children's

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Relationships are a necessary part of our existence.
However, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy.
Healthy relationships contribute to our overall well-
being while an unhealthy relationship does the exact
opposite. There are different things that point to
whether a relationship is healthy or not.
To tell if your relationship is healthy or not ask
yourself these questions
:
1. WHAT DOES HE/SHE BRING OUT OF ME?
The quality of your relationship revolves around what
you become by it. How is the relationship impacting
you? Note this is not about the other person forcing
you to change who you already are. In a healthy
relationship, you don’t feel forced to change who you
are but rather inspired to make needed changes. In
other words, it does not try to fix you but rather help
you fix yourself. A true partner knows your weakness
but shows you your strengths. Feels your fears, but
fortifies your faith. Sees your anxieties, but frees your
spirit. Recognizes your disability, but emphasizes your
possibilities.
2. WHAT DOES HE/ SHE THINK OF ME?
What your partner thinks of you really matters. It
tells or determines the value he or she places in such a
relationship. And we usually give quality attention and
care to whatever we value. Does he/she see you as a
plus in his/her life? Relationship works when it involves
mutual contribution. If your partner does not see
you as a value or at least a potential value in his life,
the intimacy and closeness will likely diminish with
time. Also, people tend to become what the most
important person in their lives believes they can be.
That’s why people in abusive relationships are usually
self-critical and timid.
3. WHAT DOES HE/SHE THINK OF MY FUTURE?
Every true relationship invests in your future one way
or the other. Your relationship should contribute to
your dreams and aspirations. Does your partner
support and consider God’s plan for you. Does he/she
help it or hinder it? This emphasizes the need for you
to determine the direction of your life. If you know
what you want in life and where you are going, it is
easy enough to figure out who fits into the picture.
4. HOW DOES HE/SHE BEHAVE TOWARDS ME IN
DIFFICULT TIMES?
The real test on the quality of your relationship comes
during difficult times not when the goings are smooth.
If he/she turns abusive or one way or the other makes
it look like you are the cause of his/her problems,
that’s a negative signal.
5. What does he/she thinks about my values and
beliefs?
If you are in a relationship where you have to
sacrifice your core values, beliefs and things that
really matter to you, you may need to re-consider
that relationship. It is true that we are to adjust and
sacrifice certain things in a relationship. However,
when it involves relegating things that really matter to
you; you are likely to end up unhappy in such
relationship. One thing peculiar with couples in healthy
relationships is the fact that they have similar values,
beliefs and focus.
6. HOW DOES HE/SHE REACTS WHEN ISSUES ARISE?
Disagreement occurs every in any relationship. What
matters is how it is handled? If he/she holds grudges
for days and drags every little issue or disagreement
to the extent that a third party need to be involved
before it can be resolved, it does not tell well about
that relationship.
7. HOW MUCH DO I TRUST HIM/HER?
A relationship without trust breeds insecurity, heart
breaks and emotional instability. It is impossible to
have a relationship if there is no trust in such
relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship are
quite open to each other. That’s why communication is
very important in relationships. If he/she allows you
to wonder or try
to guess what he/she has in mind; If you constantly
sense insincerity from him/her, then there’s bound to
be trust issues in such relationship.

HERE ARE SOME SIGNS THAT YOUR MAN MIGHT NOT BE SERIOUS BOYFRIEND MATERIAL.

1. HE’S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE. He probably is. He’s
really a snake charmer who loves the chase more than
the catch. It’s all flowers and dinner, but not a lot of
conversation about deeper subjects or the future.
2. IT’S ALL ABOUT HIM. He can’t be inconvenienced to
change his routine to accommodate you. If you can’t
fit into his little world, or if you make one slip up –
like wear the wrong shoes – you are out, baby.
3. HIS HISTORY OF RELATIONSHIPS CAN SAY A LOT on
whether or not he can handle a long intimate
situation. If he hasn’t had a relationship longer than
six months, he might not be boyfriend material.
4. THE THINGS HE SAYS – DOES HE PUT DOWN OTHER
COUPLES? He might actually say things like, “I don’t
believe in marriage.”
5. HE HAS ANGER ISSUES. He’s rude to service people.
It’s often a sign of someone who can be emotionally
abusive.
1. Is He Emotionally Available?
6. HE’S ARROGANT. Honestly, it takes someone with
confidence and self worth to be able to be in an
intimate and committed relationship. If putting down
other people is a way of elevating himself, he’s got
issues.
7. HE HAS A HIDDEN AGENDA. Too many questions about
money and sex early on indicate he has something else
on his mind other than building a loving relationship.
8. He finds fault in something you did or even
something he thinks you did. He’s looking for a way to
sabotage the relationship. So remember that it’s not
always about another woman’ it’s about him and his
willingness and capability to handle an intimate
relationship.

24 THINGS A MUM TEACHES HER DAUGHTER BEFORE MARRIAGE

24 THINGS A MUM TEACHES HER DAUGHTER BEFORE
MARRIAGE
My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your
man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you
when they finally speak with one voice.
• My daughter, I know that some of you girls don’t
wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t
ever think like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s
wife-to-be should start wishing you’re dead now.
• My daughter, listen to me, when I married your
father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow
with him and today, those cars out there are some of
the results of what we started so little, together, and
we’re proud looking at them.
• My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in
your time, some of you girls now get pregnant before
the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time
because no matter what, we never opened our laps
before the wedding.
• My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of
your father because I got to my limit of patience and
that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I
haven’t said was that we settled the issue that same
day and that was the last time I tried that.
• My daughter, look up there. That’s the wedding
picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I
know you’ve seen it many times but what you did not
know is that your father was angry before taking this
picture, I hope you find a man whose anger doesn’t
last till the next day.
• My daughter, when your Father was riding a bicycle,
I was always happy to hop on it and ride with him, not
because I didn’t see those men in their little cars but
because my eyes also saw those men trekking to their
farms.
• My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little
food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are
not always the same; support him in every phase he’s
passing through.
• My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your
husband in bed , the day he paid your dowry was the
day you lost your will to do so, don’t be stiff and try
to satisfy him even if you were angry with him
• My daughter, a man would respect you and be more
proud of you if you’re learned and not totally
dependent on him. Strive to make your own money and
while you’re at it, be humble.
• My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet
with your Father was open and good enough for our
discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you
understand what I mean.
• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm
bosoms to show our men , in fact, we had the finest
ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our
body, not because we were not civilized as you people
would call it, but because we know that the eyes of
men are hungry, many of them would only come, touch
and go their way.
• My daughter, there is this thing you girls now
practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove to
be equal to a man in the society but please, not in
your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to
start counting your husbands.
• My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation
Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before
marriage, nothing he does would be good
enough after marriage.
• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown ,
yes, because to my husband; your father, I still want
to look sexy. So, take good care of your body, look
good for your man and don’t look like a grandma
after giving birth.
• My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I’m not
interested in you coming to me always if anything goes
wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I see some
mothers controlling the homes of their sons and
daughters, I would only say; shame on them!
• My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and
well-trained children, have one voice with your
husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO
before the kids but later when you both are alone, you
can plead with him for a YES, if not, the children will
see a loophole to misbehave, either to you or their
father.
• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a man
that you’re yet to be married to , and you are
complaining that he hasn’t proposed to you, oh, he
already did. Whatever he said that made you start
living with him was his proposal.
• My daughter, your generation does not see any pride
in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame! Your
father met me a virgin and he brought more yams to
my parents and up till today, he’s still proud of me
when we discuss in that direction.
• My daughter, I know that no man out there is
complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim,
fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater, please,
go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that will give you
the respect you deserve as a woman.
• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture
and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry . In some
part of Africa, you knee down to greet your man’s
parents while in some part outside Africa; you can
even call them by their first name and ask for a
handshake. Whatever they believe in, if you’ve chosen
him, believe it with him also.
• My daughter, don’t ever try to date a married man,
whether his excuse was that he doesn’t find happiness
with his wife or he would have married you if he had
met you first, if you ever try it, I curse you already.
• My daughter, when I say over 52 years of marriage ,
it wasn’t that I did not see any reason to leave your
father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his faults, i
forgave him to stay married.
• My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have
gathered over the years. and If I had taken my time
to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn’t last
like that of your father and I, then I had wished i
never gave birth to you.